Sorry-Grateful Lyrics
Sorry-Grateful
ROBERT [speaking]:Harry, you ever sorry you got married?
HARRY:
You're always sorry,
You're always grateful,
You're always wondering
What might have been--
Then she walks in.
And still you're sorry,
And still you're grateful,
And still you wonder
And still you doubt--
And she goes out.
Everything's different, nothing's changed.
Only maybe slightly rearranged.
You're sorry-grateful,
Regretful-happy.
Why look for answers
When none occur?
You always are what you always were,
Which has nothing to do with, all to do with her.
DAVID:
You're always sorry,
You're always grateful,
You hold her, thinking:
"I'm not alone."
You're still alone.
You don't live for her,
You do live with her,
You're scared she's starting
To drift away,
And scared she'll stay.
LARRY:
Good things get better, bad get worse.
Wait, I think I meant that in reverse.
HARRY, DAVID, LARRY:
You're sorry-grateful,
Regretful-happy.
Why look for answers
When none occur?
You'll always be what you always were,
Which has nothing to do with, all to do with her.
HARRY:
Nothing to do with, all to do with her.
Song Overview

Review and Highlights

Quick summary
- A reflective trio from Act 1 of Company, voiced by three husbands - Harry, David, Larry - with Robert prompting the question.
- Music and lyrics by Stephen Sondheim; produced for record by Thomas Z. Shepard for Columbia Masterworks.
- Studio document of the album session appears in the 1970 Original Cast Album: Company film; the number also features in later filmed concerts.
- Form and feel: a searching, six-in-the-bar pulse with conversational phrases over supple orchestration; harmonic turns mirror ambivalence.
- Legacy: frequently recorded in concerts and revivals, including the 2018 London cast and various solo albums.
Creation History
By spring 1970, Company had opened and the cast assembled at Columbia’s 30th Street Studio to record the album. Producer Thomas Z. Shepard — meticulous about intelligibility and dramatic clarity — supervised a marathon session that was later captured in a celebrated documentary. The original LP hit stores on May 13, 1970, a quick turnaround that preserved the first company’s timbre and stage-bred timing. The track “Sorry-Grateful,” a compact scene-in-song, distills George Furth’s dialogue themes into Sondheim’s sinewy lines. Its orchestration leans chamber-like: reeds and brass shaded by strings, with a rhythm section underlining the lilting meter while never pushing the scene into crooner territory.
On record, you hear the trio’s different temperatures - Harry’s rueful pragmatism, David’s quietly anxious logic, Larry’s worldly shrug - share a single harmonic home. The balances let each man slide in and out of the foreground, then fuse on the refrain, “You’re sorry-grateful,” where the harmony thickens. A later filmed-in-concert staging retained the song’s intimacy but set it against a larger pit and expanded it's palette. It demonstrates how adaptable the writing is while maintaining the original's pulse.
Highlights
Language-as-music: Conjunctions and conversational fill words sit on stressed beats, a Sondheim hallmark that makes the text feel spoken-then-sung. The rhymes - “different” with “changed,” “regretful-happy” with “answers where none occur” - are sly and off-center, slightly destabilizing the listener.
Pacing and pulse: The six-to-the-bar sway suggests a grown-up lullaby for uneasy adults. Cadences resist tidy closure; a half-finished thought hangs, the harmony steps sideways, and the next verse begins as if conversation never stopped.
Character counterpoint: When the three men sing together, their lines dovetail rather than belt in blocks. The texture says as much as the text: different marriages, same uneasy weather.
Song Meaning and Annotations

Plot
Robert spends the evening bouncing among coupled friends, watching marriage up close with all its bad habits and good graces. After a playful-turned-tense sparring match between Harry and Sarah, Robert asks the impolite question: is marriage worth it. The answer arrives not as a lecture but as this trio, “Sorry-Grateful,” where husbands Harry, David, and Larry admit a contradiction they live with daily. The scene does not resolve to a moral - it lands on a shrug that sounds honest: you are both, often at once.
Song Meaning
This is not a breakup song or a valentine. It is a companion to the show’s thesis: adulthood is ambivalence managed with affection and a sense of humor. The lyric toggles between half-closed doors - “You’re always wondering what might have been” - and comfort - “You hold her, thinking, ‘I’m not alone.’” The music matches the thought pattern: a gentle, steady meter that nonetheless refuses to sit still harmonically. The refrain’s compound words - “sorry-grateful,” “regretful-happy” - feel like two magnets pushing and pulling at the same time. You can sense Sondheim’s relish in writing ambivalence without apology and without melodrama.
Annotations
“Everything’s different - Nothing’s changed - Only maybe slightly - Rearranged.”
The rhyme-light, talky cadence is a giveaway: these men are not poets but professionals of making-do. Dramaturgically, this sits after we have seen marriages tease, compete, and collude. The line reads like domestic physics - the furniture moved, the gravity the same.
“Why look for answers where none occur?”
A thesis statement sung as counsel to Robert and a reminder to the audience: this show distrusts pat lessons. Harmonically, the line avoids a clean perfect cadence; the question mark is in the chords as well as the words.
“You do not live for her - You do live with her.”
An economy of prepositions carries moral weight. The lyrical contrast mirrors the arrangement’s shift from solo to light duet, as if one man is rephrasing the other into something livable.

Genre and feel
Call it a modern theatre ballad crossed with a light jazz waltz feel in six. The groove flows like a half-lullaby, half-conversation, the kind of pulse that lets a singer place words with actorly freedom.
Emotional arc
Each verse starts binary - doubt versus comfort - and by the refrain the voices accept that both can be true. The final tag - “Nothing to do with, all to do with her” - resolves as a shrug, not a flourish, which is exactly the point.
Cultural touchpoints
In the early 70s, American entertainment was swapping out fantasy marriages for real ones, a shift heard in pop and seen on TV. This number is a seed of that realism, what NME magazine might call the sound of adulthood without varnish. It offered later generations a template for writing men who admit fear without sentimentality.
Production and instrumentation
The pit colors are transparent: reeds doubling sax and clarinets, tempered brass, a rhythm section, and strings. You hear Jonathon Tunick’s orchestration ethic - keep the scene clear, add a halo where needed, let the lyric lead. When the trio merges, strings round the edges but never crowd the words.
Key Facts
- Artist: Charles Kimbrough, George Coe, Charles Braswell
- Featured: Dean Jones appears on adjacent tracks as Robert on the album
- Composer: Stephen Sondheim
- Producer: Thomas Z. Shepard
- Release Date: May 13, 1970
- Genre: Broadway, Pop-theatre ballad
- Instruments: Reeds, brass, strings, piano, keyboards, drums - balanced for conversational clarity
- Label: Columbia Masterworks
- Mood: Ambivalent, tender, candid
- Length: About 3:30
- Track #: 3
- Language: English
- Album: Company (Original Broadway Cast)
- Music style: Lyric theatre song with six-in-the-bar sway
- Poetic meter: Mixed, conversational iambs with prosaic turns
Canonical Entities & Relations
- Stephen Sondheim - wrote - music and lyrics for “Sorry-Grateful.”
- Thomas Z. Shepard - produced - Company original cast album.
- Columbia Masterworks - released - 1970 original cast LP of Company.
- Charles Kimbrough - sang - Harry’s lines on the album track.
- George Coe - sang - David’s lines on the album track.
- Charles Braswell - sang - Larry’s lines on the album track.
- D. A. Pennebaker - directed - documentary Original Cast Album: Company featuring the session.
- Masterworks Broadway - administers - catalog and digital releases of the cast album.
- New York Philharmonic - presented - the 2011 concert version filmed for cinemas.
- 2018 London cast - recorded - revival album including the trio.
Questions and Answers
- Who produced the original cast album track of “Sorry-Grateful”?
- Thomas Z. Shepard, a leading Broadway record producer with a long history of cast recordings.
- When was the original LP released to the public?
- May 13, 1970, shortly after the Broadway opening.
- Who wrote the music and lyrics?
- Stephen Sondheim, writing both words and music.
- What is the musical meter and why does it matter?
- It flows in six beats to the bar, which supports conversational phrasing and keeps the emotion unsettled yet gentle.
- Where in the show does the number occur?
- Act 1, after Robert observes Harry and Sarah’s sparring and asks the marriages-in-the-room question.
- Is there a notable filmed record of this song?
- Yes - the 1970 studio session appears in a documentary about the album, and the piece is included in the 2011 New York Philharmonic concert film.
- Which revival recording gives a fresh angle?
- The 2018 London cast album, recorded with the show’s gender-swapped concept, offers a new dramatic frame while preserving the trio’s ambivalence.
- How would you describe the vocal writing?
- Baritone-friendly lines that sit in conversation range, with ensemble dovetailing rather than big belted peaks.
- Why do the lyrics read like advice more than confession?
- The husbands are rationalizing in real time, turning confessions into usable counsel for Robert - and for themselves.
Awards and Chart Positions
The song’s parent musical Company was a landmark at the 1971 Tony Awards, winning key categories including Best Musical, Best Book, and - in a rare split year - Best Score and Best Lyrics awarded separately to Stephen Sondheim. The cast album’s fast release in May 1970 helped amplify the show’s cultural reach that summer. Critical notices singled out “Sorry-Grateful” for its form and feel, praising its candid ambivalence.
| Award body | Category | Result | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Tony Awards 1971 | Best Musical | Won | Show-level recognition that canonized the score that includes “Sorry-Grateful.” |
| Tony Awards 1971 | Best Original Score | Won | Music - Stephen Sondheim. |
| Tony Awards 1971 | Best Lyrics | Won | In the only year the Tonys split music and lyrics, Sondheim took both. |
| Critical press 1970 | Album review highlights | Praised | A major magazine lauded “Sorry-Grateful” for its six-in-the-bar shape and inconclusive grace. |
How to Sing Sorry-Grateful
At a glance: Moderate tempo around the mid-80s BPM; feels like a gentle six. Original published keys vary by edition and extraction, but D major is common for the trio in licensed materials. Expect a baritone-friendly range roughly B3 to E4 for Harry’s part, with ensemble dovetailing in the refrain. The challenge is not range but breath and speech rhythm - landing words on the line while keeping the legato float.
Step-by-step HowTo
- Set the tempo: Aim for a relaxed mid-80s feel. Count two big dotted half-beats per bar if that steadies you.
- Mark diction targets: Underline conjunctions and pivots - “and,” “still,” “only maybe” - that carry the argument. Place them gently on the beat so the thought sounds lived-in.
- Breathing plan: Breathe at commas, not barlines. Avoid chopping “You’re always sorry - You’re always grateful.” Use a quiet, low inhalation before “Everything’s different.”
- Flow and phrasing: Treat each verse like a single paragraph. Save color for the refrain; let “sorry-grateful” bloom in tone, then taper the tail of “Why look for answers where none occur.”
- Accents and ensemble: When singing as a trio, think counterpoint, not unison heft. Listen for inner lines on “You’ll always be what you always were.” Align consonants lightly so the text stays crisp.
- Mic craft: If amplified, ride the mic closer on the introspective lines and back slightly when the three parts blend to keep the texture transparent.
- Pitfalls: Over-sentimentality flattens the ambivalence; belting the refrain erases the nuance. Avoid over-scooping into phrase starts - let the harmony carry the ache.
Practice material: Work with a rehearsal track or piano reduction. If you have access to the show extraction, rehearse the trio balances and cutoffs, then add rubato tastefully over the steady pulse. For solo renditions on recitals, keep the conversational placement and let the accompaniment whisper rather than throb.
Additional Info
Recordings and covers abound. Mandy Patinkin folded a pensive miniature of the trio into his concert album Dress Casual, framing it as a thought experiment before “Being Alive.” The 2011 New York Philharmonic concert version, led by Neil Patrick Harris, placed the piece in a starry lineup while keeping its chamber-scale intimacy. The 2018 London cast album, part of the celebrated gender-swapped production, refreshed the context but preserved the trio’s yin-yang thesis.
Critical history matters here. A major magazine review in the summer of 1970 praised the album’s intelligence and singled out this song’s six-to-the-bar as just right for its “affectingly inconclusive point.” As stated in the 2024 Rolling Stone's study of cast recordings’ afterlives, the numbers that travel best are the ones that play like scenes; “Sorry-Grateful” is exactly that. And for those curious about the recording process itself, the 1970 documentary shows the nitty-gritty of fixing balances, finessing cutoffs, and chasing a take that tells the story.
Sources: Masterworks Broadway, Tony Awards, The New Yorker, Discogs, MTI Shows, SongBPM, Musicstax, Filmed on Stage, IMDb, Spotify, Apple Music.