My Dead Gay Son Lyrics – Heathers
My Dead Gay Son Lyrics
Anthony Crivello & Daniel CooneyYou wait just a minute, Paul! It is ignorant, hateful talk like yours that makes this world a place our boys could not live in!
They were not dirty!
They were not wrong!
They were not lonely verses
in the Lord's great song!
KURT'S DAD
Our boys were pansies, Bill!
RAM'S DAD
Yes! My boy's a homosexual,
and that don't scare me none --
I want the world to know...
I love my dead gay son!
I've been thinking. Praying. Reading some magazines. And it's time we opened our eyes.
Well, the good Lord made
the universe
The Lord created man.
And I believe it's all a part of his
gigantic plan.
I know God has a reason
for each mountain and each flower,
and why he chose to let our boys
get busy in the shower!
They were not dirty --
They were not fruits!
They were just two stray laces
in the Lord's big boots.
Well, I never cared for homos much
until I reared me one,
but now I've learned to love...
I love my dead gay son!
CONGREGATION
He loves his son,
he loves his son!
His dead gay son!
RAM'S DAD
Now, I say my boy's in heaven
and he's tanning by the pool.
The cherubim walk him and him,
and Jesus says it's cool!!
They don't have crime or hatred,
there's no bigotry or cursin' --
Just friendly fellows dressed up
like their fav'rite village person!
They were not dirty --
They just had flair!
They were two bright red ribbons
in the Lord's long hair.
Well, I used to see a homo
and go reachin' for my gun,
but now I've learned to love...
And furthermore! --
(to Kurt's dad)
These boys were brave as hell!
These boys, they knew damn well!
Those folks would judge 'em,
they were desperate to be free!
They took a rebel stance,
stripped to their underpants!
Paul, I can't believe that you
still refuse to get a clue,
after all that we been through --
I'm talking you and me!
In the summer of '83.
(Congregation gasps)
KURT'S DAD
That.... was one hell of a fishing trip.
(A long beat. Kurt's dad approaches Ram's dad and kisses him, hard. They embrace.)
CONGREGATION
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa
Whoa, whoa, whoa!
They were not dirty - Whoa!
And not perverse -- No no!
They were two stray rhinestones
on the Lord's big purse!
BOTH DADS
Our jobs are now continuing
that work that they begun!
CONGREGATION
'Cause now we love, love, love!
We love your dead --
BOTH DADS
They're up there disco dancing
to the thump of angel wings!
They grab a mate and roller skate
while Judy Garland sings!
They live a playful afterlife that's
fancy-free and reckless!
KURT'S DAD
They swing upon the pearly gates --
BOTH DADS & CONGREGATION
And wear a pearly necklace!
Whoo!
They were not dirty!
They were good men!
And now they're happy bear cubs
in the Lord's big den!
BOTH DADS
Go forth and love each other now,
like our boys would have done.
EVERYONE
We'll teach the world to love...
BOTH DADS
I love my dead gay son!
My son! My son!
CONGREGATION
Not half bad, your dead gay son!
Wish I had your dead gay son!
Thank you, dad, for your...
BOTH DADS & CONGREGATION
Dead gay son!
Song Overview

Personal Review
This number hits like a camp revival meeting that suddenly learns how to two-step. The lyrics jab and jive, flipping homophobic clichés into a glittered broadside, and the staging lets two baritones do a comic heel-turn toward grace. Key takeaways: satire with teeth, a choir of gasp-worthy punchlines, and a sneaky tenderness tucked under the rhinestones. One-sentence snapshot - a funeral erupts into a brassy sermon where dads discover love, language, and each other, while the town rewrites the boys’ story in real time.
Song Meaning and Annotations

The scene lands at Ram and Kurt’s funeral, where two blustery fathers, steeped in small-town swagger, pivot from sneers to solidarity. The comedy is outrageous on purpose - it reveals how performative prejudice can be, and how quickly an audience will applaud “acceptance” when wrapped in sequins and a key-change.
Stylistically, the song is a Broadway pastiche: gospel handclaps, parade-band brass, and a 4/4 strut that keeps the pews swaying. That rhythmic confidence gives the lyrics room to smuggle in satire - village-people gags, theology with tassels, and dad-level double entendres that keep the chorus hot.
The emotional arc is a flipbook. It starts stiff - “ignorant, hateful talk” from the pulpit - then cracks into confession, and finally into disco-light catharsis. Under the glitter sits a simple truth: communities often sanctify the dead to avoid facing what harmed them while alive.
Context matters. Heathers thrives on 80s iconography, teen-movie logic, and tabloid morals, so this number turns a funeral into a variety show to reflect how mobs process scandal. It’s tasteless on purpose, so we can taste the hypocrisy.
Production touchstones: the 2014 world-premiere cast album (Yellow Sound Label) captures a crisp pit with bright reeds and punchy brass, while the 2019 West End recording leans shinier and more present on the choir stack. Both frame the lyric’s bait-and-switch perfectly.
Message
“My boy’s a homosexual… I love my dead gay son.”
The line shocks, then disarms. The message isn’t subtle: love your kid before the eulogy. The satire cuts both ways - it skewers bigotry and the speed with which public grief becomes spectacle.
Emotional tone
Buoyant, brazen, then weirdly tender. It’s a brass-band wake where the laughter lands half a beat before the lump in your throat.
Historical context
The show riffs on late-80s America - moral panics, televangelist cadence, and the era’s uneasy TV depictions of queer lives. The number mirrors how media often sanctified tragedy instead of interrogating prejudice.
Production & instrumentation
Driving 4/4 groove; drum kit and bass lock a two-feel; saxes and trumpets punch the hook; organ pads and tambourine add churchy bite; men’s ensemble doubles the dads for that pew-rattling refrain.
Analysis of key phrases & idioms
“Verses in the Lord’s great song” reframes identity as harmony, not deviation. “Stray rhinestones on the Lord’s big purse” uses camp to expose how quickly faith talk can be bent toward fashion when reputations are at stake.
About metaphors and symbols
Heaven arrives as a roller rink - sequins, Judy Garland, and choirboy falsetto. That kitsch isn’t mockery of queer culture; it’s a mirror for straight performance - the dads cosplay acceptance until, oddly, it becomes real.
Creation history
Composed by Laurence O’Keefe and Kevin Murphy for the Off-Broadway premiere and preserved on the 2014 world-premiere cast album produced by Michael Croiter with O’Keefe and Murphy. Later, the West End cast (2019) recorded a spirited version featuring Nathan Amzi and Jon Boydon.
Verse Highlights

Verse 1
Opens with a scolding - the room still believes its own lies. The melody climbs as the father flips his stance, and the band answers with jubilant hits.
Chorus
The title phrase lands on a bright chord, daring the congregation to clap along. It’s laughter as leverage - once you’re clapping, you’ve admitted the premise.
Bridge
The “afterlife” imagery is pure camp - roller skates, disco, pearl jokes - a satirical parade that forces the town to celebrate what it once mocked.
Tag
The final shout stacks harmony like stained glass. It’s intentionally too big for the room - that’s the joke and the sting.
Key Facts

- Featured: Anthony Crivello (Ram’s Dad), Daniel Cooney (Kurt’s Dad) on the 2014 cast album; Nathan Amzi & Jon Boydon on the 2019 West End recording.
- Producers: Michael Croiter, with Kevin Murphy & Laurence O’Keefe (world-premiere cast album).
- Composer/Lyricists: Kevin Murphy & Laurence O’Keefe.
- Release Date: June 10, 2014 (World Premiere Cast Recording).
- Genre: Musical theatre, camp-gospel pastiche.
- Instruments: brass section, reeds, drum kit, bass, guitar, keys/organ, hand percussion, ensemble chorus.
- Label: Yellow Sound Label.
- Mood: satirical, exuberant, confessional.
- Length: ~3:42 (2014 recording).
- Track #: 10 (World Premiere Cast Recording).
- Language: English.
- Album: Heathers: The Musical (World Premiere Cast Recording); also on Heathers: The Musical (Original West End Cast Recording) (2019).
- Music style: Broadway uptempo with gospel/R&B coloration; 4/4 feel.
- Poetic meter: mixed iambic-anapestic phrasing typical of patter-song prosody.
- © Copyrights: © 2014 by the original rights holders for Heathers: The Musical.
Questions and Answers
- Is “My Dead Gay Son” performed in every major version of the show?
- Yes - it’s a staple of Act II. The West End revisions replaced “Blue” with “You’re Welcome,” but this number remained, including in the 2022 London pro-shot released on The Roku Channel.
- Who performs the song on the world-premiere and West End albums?
- Anthony Crivello and Daniel Cooney on the 2014 recording; Nathan Amzi and Jon Boydon on the 2019 West End cast album.
- Did the cast album have official chart impact?
- Yes. The 2014 album reached No. 20 on the UK Official Soundtrack Albums Chart and No. 74 on the Official Album Downloads Chart (UK) during its chart run.
- What’s the dramatic function of the song?
- It converts a funeral into a civic pageant - exposing hypocrisy, reframing the boys as martyrs, and pushing Veronica closer to rejecting J.D.’s worldview.
- Are there notable covers or alternate-language versions?
- The 2019 Original West End Cast recording popularized a new take, and international productions have presented licensed translations, including Brazilian stagings in Portuguese.
Awards and Chart Positions
The World Premiere Cast Recording helped sustain the show’s UK momentum - it peaked at No. 20 on the Official Soundtrack Albums Chart and reached No. 74 on the Official Album Downloads Chart. The West End production later saw its own cast album reach No. 24 on the UK Albums Chart in March 2019.
How to Sing?
Vocal types: both dads are lyric baritones. Comfortable tessitura sits around B2–E4, with optional F4 pops on the tag. Think “sermon with swing” - crisp diction, square 4/4 feel, and a grin in the consonants. Breath plan: stagger in the chorus (ensemble support) and save a fuller column for the final held “son.” Color: start stern and brightening, then open the vowels as acceptance arrives. Comedy lands when the tone stays sincere.
Songs Exploring Themes of Queer Acceptance
“I Am What I Am” – La Cage aux Folles. A declarative anthem, built on modulations that feel like steps onto a brighter stage. Where My Dead Gay Son uses camp to reveal hypocrisy, this classic plants its flag and dares the world to move. The lyric insists on visibility; the orchestration gilds it with brass and drum-rolls that sound like confetti cannons.
“Turn It Off” – The Book of Mormon. A cheery tap number about emotional repression. Meanwhile, My Dead Gay Son satirizes public conversion; “Turn It Off” lampoons private denial. Both use sparkle to expose systems that prefer the closet tidy and silent. The joke is joyous, the target is deadly serious.
“I’ll Cover You (Reprise)” – Rent. Grief sung as vow. Unlike the dads’ sudden enlightenment, this is raw mourning that lets love name the loss without masks. The lyric economy and gospel build echo the funeral-as-ritual thread, but here the spectacle strips away to reveal community as refuge.
Music video
Heathers Lyrics: Song List
- Act 1
- Beautiful
- Candy Store
- Fight for Me
- Freeze Your Brain
- Big Fun
- Dead Girl Walking
- The Me Inside of Me
- Blue
- Our Love Is God
- Act 2
- My Dead Gay Son
- Seventeen
- Shine a Light
- Lifeboat
- Shine a Light (reprise)
- Kindergarten Boyfriend
- Yo Girl
- Meant to Be Yours
- Dead Girl Walking (Reprise)
- I Am Damaged
- Seventeen (reprise)
- Other Songs
- Candy Store Playoff
- Blue Reprise
- Prom or Hell?
- Hey, Yo Westerberg
- You're Welcome
- Never Shut Up Again
- I Say No
- Spoken Scenes and Transition Tracks
- It’s Been Three Weeks
- Transition to Croquet
- Ow Ow Ow/Transition to Party
- Pinata Of Doom
- Veronicas Chandler Nightmare